Being a woman in her thirties can sometimes be daunting and exhausting and just plain hard! We are in high demand and because of this, it is often too easy to live life by just going through the motions, neither here nor there, but checking things off of our multiple To Do Lists. But really what kind of living is that?
Here are 5 tips I try to adhere to daily, in order to be more present, focused and motivated.
- Love yourself, but most importantly be nice to yourself-
I practice being my number one fan and biggest supporter. It’s actually embarrassing to write in public but if I’m not keeping myself confident and motivated, who will? It’s great to have people in life to build you up, but all of it is just superficial unless you really believe and accept compliments that others give you. This doesn’t mean that I think I am the cat’s meow. I am quite honest with myself, but I am also nice to myself, and I think this makes a huge difference. Being self-critical is natural and healthy. It becomes destructive though when it isn’t followed up with the internal knowledge that it is okay to “mess up” every once in a while.
- Practice discipline-
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
I want to accomplish so many things! None of it will get done though if I don’t make myself do something towards accomplishing a specific goal EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. With that said, I definitely have my lazy days, the days where I am pulled in so many directions that nothing gets done, and the days where I have to devote time to the mundane like laundry and grocery shopping. The true test of discipline though, is doing all of those mundane tasks and then getting back on course. It takes time and so much practice, but once a habit is formed, it is hard to break and success will follow.
- Do one thing at a time and practice being in the moment-
This is really hard for me to do. I am good at multi-tasking, though my husband constantly reminds me that multi-tasking actually lowers my IQ. I am working on it, but it is really difficult because like I said earlier, I want to accomplish so many things! Doing one thing at a time does reduce stress and improves my focus so yeah, we will call it a work in progress…
- Review your priorities-
What and Who is important in your life and Why? I review and revise this list constantly. Helps to keep me focused.
- Celebrate every tiny victory-
This one is in direct correlation to being nice to yourself. Tiny victories happen all of the time but mostly go unnoticed. I decided that I would start celebrating all of the small victories to keep me motivated. For example, today I will celebrate that I actually wrote a blog post despite the fact that I have been extremely busy all day and I’m still recovering from a week of really bad sleep. Yay me!
What do you do to stay focused and motivated?
By: W. Castellanos-Wolf